Wow. What a lunatic for a therapist. I had a female therapist who was abusive and highly manipulative for 11 years. She was/is a malignant narcissist. She had zero boundaries, was financially abusive, and had a knack for leaving a wake of destruction, simllar to urs. Hearing stories like ur helps me, so thank u for sharing. I invite u to read my substack, its called “A Cult of Two”: juliawild.substack.com
I had a “trauma” therapist who panicked when I went into a flashback during EMDR & she essentially became part of the flashback & prolonged it instead of allowing me to get thru it quickly like I had on my own in the past. She then gaslit me for 3 mos. I had stayed w her that long after, incorrectly believing it best to stay with her, who had been there instead of trying to explain to someone new what happened & the recurrent flashbacks I had involving HER!
I was paying out of pocket at the time. Oh, and add that it was during the abnormal pandemic world.
I’ve come a long way!
I understand completely how difficult your experience is to tell & the gaslighting that goes on to deny credibility to the person who has a diagnosis. You’ve come a long way!
I read a statistic how many therapists choose that profession because of their own unresolved psychological issues.
Thanks for sharing and sharing what you’ve learned. I totally understand how it’s easier to write the story. I have had some very manipulative clients and it’s hard to tell the story linearly…so much happened and so many dynamics, it’s hard to summarize it, but also make the point how hard it was. A huge part of the difficulty is how complex the experience was in amount, intensity, various types of manipulation, all that was said, and all the various stressors and triggers. That said, you told your story summary well and holy shit dude, I’m so impressed you saw through all of it and are doing something great from what you learned. Again, thanks again for sharing it all, your Substack has already helped me tremendously.
Thank you for sharing this. It inspires me to be more authentic here. After being gaslit thru 13 years married to a narcissist, and even after 8 years of healing, fear creeps in.
There are those of us who have been thru it who are committed to helping others to heal thru mind-body skills, compassion and supporting self-differentiation. Keep up the good work. 💖✨
No way.. the list. I dated someone who was emotionally abusive. They made me write an apology letter and list out stuff. So long ago and my brain has blanked it but this reminded me..keep on doing what ur doing. It’s going to help lots of ppl. Ur story is powerful. Sorry u went through all that
What you said about how your brain ties your self worth to getting things done..that is literally how I feel. Rn I don’t feel I’m making progress and it’s frustrating. But trying to just exist and be even on days I don’t trusting that even if I can’t see progress it’s being made behind the scenes in ways I can’t know of yet.
Wow. What a lunatic for a therapist. I had a female therapist who was abusive and highly manipulative for 11 years. She was/is a malignant narcissist. She had zero boundaries, was financially abusive, and had a knack for leaving a wake of destruction, simllar to urs. Hearing stories like ur helps me, so thank u for sharing. I invite u to read my substack, its called “A Cult of Two”: juliawild.substack.com
I’ll be popping over there.
I had a “trauma” therapist who panicked when I went into a flashback during EMDR & she essentially became part of the flashback & prolonged it instead of allowing me to get thru it quickly like I had on my own in the past. She then gaslit me for 3 mos. I had stayed w her that long after, incorrectly believing it best to stay with her, who had been there instead of trying to explain to someone new what happened & the recurrent flashbacks I had involving HER!
I was paying out of pocket at the time. Oh, and add that it was during the abnormal pandemic world.
I’ve come a long way!
I understand completely how difficult your experience is to tell & the gaslighting that goes on to deny credibility to the person who has a diagnosis. You’ve come a long way!
I read a statistic how many therapists choose that profession because of their own unresolved psychological issues.
"Let the abusers be ashamed of themselves. You have nothing to be ashamed about." 💯
Thanks for sharing and sharing what you’ve learned. I totally understand how it’s easier to write the story. I have had some very manipulative clients and it’s hard to tell the story linearly…so much happened and so many dynamics, it’s hard to summarize it, but also make the point how hard it was. A huge part of the difficulty is how complex the experience was in amount, intensity, various types of manipulation, all that was said, and all the various stressors and triggers. That said, you told your story summary well and holy shit dude, I’m so impressed you saw through all of it and are doing something great from what you learned. Again, thanks again for sharing it all, your Substack has already helped me tremendously.
Glad you are coming out stronger, keep been your amazing self.
Thank you Sae!
Thank you for sharing this. It inspires me to be more authentic here. After being gaslit thru 13 years married to a narcissist, and even after 8 years of healing, fear creeps in.
There are those of us who have been thru it who are committed to helping others to heal thru mind-body skills, compassion and supporting self-differentiation. Keep up the good work. 💖✨
Thank you Cynthia!!
You are brave and amazing, Cody! 💓
Thank you Rea!
No way.. the list. I dated someone who was emotionally abusive. They made me write an apology letter and list out stuff. So long ago and my brain has blanked it but this reminded me..keep on doing what ur doing. It’s going to help lots of ppl. Ur story is powerful. Sorry u went through all that
Thank you Eleana
I’m so sorry your therapist did that to u..that’s fucked up.
What you said about how your brain ties your self worth to getting things done..that is literally how I feel. Rn I don’t feel I’m making progress and it’s frustrating. But trying to just exist and be even on days I don’t trusting that even if I can’t see progress it’s being made behind the scenes in ways I can’t know of yet.