The distinction between performance apologies and genuine accountability is vital. It completely reframes the cycle! I really like how you break down what a real apology looks like in five clear steps. It’s practical, actionable, and validates the exhaustion and confusion that come from repeated manipulation. People apologize so often, but it’s usually just words; real change is what actually matters - actionable steps.
Thank you, Cody. Not only is this useful for knowing when an apology is worthless damage control, it also tells us what we need to do when we need to apologize for something we’ve done.
The distinction between performance apologies and genuine accountability is vital. It completely reframes the cycle! I really like how you break down what a real apology looks like in five clear steps. It’s practical, actionable, and validates the exhaustion and confusion that come from repeated manipulation. People apologize so often, but it’s usually just words; real change is what actually matters - actionable steps.
I am not seeing the “what to do, say, etc.. part. Thought I was subscribed to you… being lied to and lied about. Great article! 💕
This article inspired deeper healing between some of my parts around taking accountability!
Thanks Cody!!
Apology is a powerful and important psychological technology.
People don’t think about it as a technology, but it is.
It restores harmony and assuages our need for justice.
But like any technology, it can be abused.
Knowing the difference between authentic apologies and manipulative apologies is crucial to psychological and relational health.
Thank you, Cody. Not only is this useful for knowing when an apology is worthless damage control, it also tells us what we need to do when we need to apologize for something we’ve done.
This article inspired deeper healing between some of my parts around taking accountability!
Thanks Cody!!
Apology is a powerful and important psychological technology.
People don’t think about it as a technology, but it is.
It restores harmony and assuages our need for justice.
But like any technology, it can be abused.
Knowing the difference between authentic apologies and manipulative apologies is crucial to psychological and relational health.
I’m sorry. I didn’t mean it.
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