The Anger Regulation Map
Have you said things you didn't mean when you were angry? Me too. This tool helped me stop.
Anger has never been just anger for me.
It’s been shame. Rejection. Fear. Childhood flashbacks with adult consequences.
It’s been a body that remembers danger before my mind can say we’re safe.
I’ve said things I regret.
I’ve threatened to leave when I didn’t mean it.
I’ve shut people down before they had a chance to care.
And for a long time, I told myself I was just intense. Just passionate.
But really, I was unregulated and unarmed with anything that could actually help me stay in control without burying what I felt.
So I built this.
It’s called The Anger Regulation Map
It’s a simple, clear, survivor-built tool for the exact moment your brain goes offline
And all that pain tries to speak for you
This is not a worksheet
It’s not about being nice or walking away or “calming down”
It’s about disarming your nervous system before it hijacks your relationships
Here’s what’s inside:
A physical pattern breaker to stop the spiral in real time
Five trauma-informed questions to bring your clarity back
Body-based release options that don’t require a gym, a therapist, or a silent retreat
A word-for-word script to reclaim your power when the wave passes
If you’ve ever said
“I’m not crazy for feeling this — but I hate how I reacted”
This is for you
If you’ve ever felt yourself losing control and didn’t want to
If you’ve ever hurt someone you love in a moment of fury
If you’ve ever turned your anger on yourself instead of the thing that caused it
This is for you too
Anger is not your enemy.
It’s your body trying to protect something sacred.
This tool helps you respond instead of explode.
—Cody Taymore
Kill The Silence
Useful, thank you. You might be interested in The Adult Child Podcast. Andrea Ashley who runs the site is on the same healing journey. It’s not just for children of alcoholics/addicts. It is for children who were in dysfunctional families. She interviews some groundbreaking people in the realm of healing trauma. Between your information, The Adult Child podcast and The Crappy Childhood Fairy and her book, I have learned some truly useful tools. The cool thing is all of the above sources are from people who had to actually live through it and find ways out. I tend to trust sources who have had to do so as much “therapy” is not performed by people who had to find a successful way out and appropriate coping tools for dealing with the aftermath nor is it truly trauma-informed. Wishing you a good week, Mr. Taymore.