The Addiction Nobody Talks About: Chasing Closure You Will Never Get

How to break the cycle that keeps you trapped in other people’s power

Sep 07, 2025

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A distressed man sits with his hands clasped near his face, brow furrowed and eyes red, as if he is on the verge of tears or struggling with a difficult conversation.

We romanticize closure. We picture it like the final chapter in the book of pain. The conversation, the explanation, the apology that ties everything together with a neat little bow.

Movies end with tearful confessions. Self-help books promise you can get the answers you deserve. Therapists suggest you “have that conversation” to find peace.

But closure i…

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