Before my healing journey and when my ocpd perfectionism was at its complete worst, I'd have moments for (lack of knowing what to correctly call), like ptsd moments, that were surging moments of immense hurt whenever I'd recall/revisit some things im not proud of ever saying aloud to another human or myself (in my innerworld). This would make my mind quickly jump or seek something else to avoid such searing pain of regret and shame. Not till my recent healing journey (im very much still navigating)- have i finally been able to return to these memories safe from pain to simply visit & understand the vulnerability that was touched in that moment so I can give myself a peace offering, the gift of grace, without discrediting once perceived "bad" qualities like always speaking my mind openly and honestly, often without filter 🫠 🥰
Very interesting. When I went to read this I thought that I would relate because I have said things when I was drunk that I can’t take back. This is a different situation and one I can also relate too. I Just reacted. My current relationship is perfect and when my partner says something that makes me want to yell, I give pause, just for a moment, and take a breath. I think about his perspective and that he did not mean it the way I thought he did because I thought a certain way because of abuse in my past. Knowing that and knowing my triggers I can calmly explain why something he said hurt me, and he has Always been grateful and caring when I share that, and it is Always not what he meant, we communicate slow so we get along better. This is a great read thank you for sharing.
Sometimes, what you've said is the truth that everyone else wants to ignore. By keeping everything inside or hidden, you never allow that person to heal. Once you've said it, it is time to move on and close that chapter in your life.
This made me feel understood. Thank you for that x
Before my healing journey and when my ocpd perfectionism was at its complete worst, I'd have moments for (lack of knowing what to correctly call), like ptsd moments, that were surging moments of immense hurt whenever I'd recall/revisit some things im not proud of ever saying aloud to another human or myself (in my innerworld). This would make my mind quickly jump or seek something else to avoid such searing pain of regret and shame. Not till my recent healing journey (im very much still navigating)- have i finally been able to return to these memories safe from pain to simply visit & understand the vulnerability that was touched in that moment so I can give myself a peace offering, the gift of grace, without discrediting once perceived "bad" qualities like always speaking my mind openly and honestly, often without filter 🫠 🥰
Thank you so much for helping us with this 🙏💗
Me too
Very interesting. When I went to read this I thought that I would relate because I have said things when I was drunk that I can’t take back. This is a different situation and one I can also relate too. I Just reacted. My current relationship is perfect and when my partner says something that makes me want to yell, I give pause, just for a moment, and take a breath. I think about his perspective and that he did not mean it the way I thought he did because I thought a certain way because of abuse in my past. Knowing that and knowing my triggers I can calmly explain why something he said hurt me, and he has Always been grateful and caring when I share that, and it is Always not what he meant, we communicate slow so we get along better. This is a great read thank you for sharing.
That’s deep
Well put— “What’s left is instinct. Raw defense. Survival-mode impulse.”
I’m slowly learning this a trauma response and not who I am. Yet how the heck did you learn to re-program your instincts?
Looking forward to reading more.
That really is the key.
I’m awake now. Powerful
Thank you!
“This is Kill The Silence” what a powerful declaration. Loving all the fire you’re putting out into the world!🔥❤️🔥🔥
Thank you Angela!
Sometimes, what you've said is the truth that everyone else wants to ignore. By keeping everything inside or hidden, you never allow that person to heal. Once you've said it, it is time to move on and close that chapter in your life.
Listen to a science podcast and fall in line already. Get a haircut, and a job. Jeez whiz man.