This is so good Cody. I didn't understand that my trauma lived in my body either. Until it screamed. Now I process triggers instead of stuffing them down. I'm wondering if you are familiar with Teal Swan's work? She is my go-to person for understanding how to put ourselves back together. I'm currently reading The Completion Process which would be an incredible companion to your work (and mine).
This title screams that I need to read it, and speaks a truth I couldn’t put into words as recently as today. I saved it though because I’m so raw right now I don’t think I can read it.
What a revelation. Wow. An insight. Now , I know constant worry triggers illnesses. But, what you explained makes utter sense. It has made me sit up and take note.
After yeas of searching I finally found a therapist who listens and supports me. Regardless of what I’m feeling, she helps me see that my reactions are justified and that I am not the antagonist in these situations. She gives me the freedom to feel, which helps to dissipate the the feelings and allows my body to relax for awhile before the next onslaught.
“The body keeps the score” by Bessel van der Kolk is a well known book amongst those in the mental health field. I am sorry you had the experience with the therapist that you did.
What you wrote touched me. I also have a body driven by a nervous system informed by trauma. Trauma when I was very young when my brain was developing. I am so sorry that your therapist treated you the way they did. It’s just plain unethical. Everything said in therapy is confidential, how could she threaten to tell your employer? Not ethical. And yet, what I’m saying isn’t much help, either. I am fortunate to be working with a talented therapist who introduced me to internal family systems as a slow and steady way of healing from my trauma. After many years of therapy, using other approaches plus IFS for the last 10+ years, I’m starting to see the healing. I am so glad you found a way out of your prison.
This is why I do dance therapy, no smount of talking would help my body recall how to relax and for my nervous system to Maybe start to work
This is so good Cody. I didn't understand that my trauma lived in my body either. Until it screamed. Now I process triggers instead of stuffing them down. I'm wondering if you are familiar with Teal Swan's work? She is my go-to person for understanding how to put ourselves back together. I'm currently reading The Completion Process which would be an incredible companion to your work (and mine).
I think you’ve just become my free therapist
I found learning about the messages my body was sending and having ways to heal in those areas extremely beneficial.
The part about the body remembering even when the mind forgets, felt too relatable!
This title screams that I need to read it, and speaks a truth I couldn’t put into words as recently as today. I saved it though because I’m so raw right now I don’t think I can read it.
Thank you for this powerful reminder to tap into the body secret wisdom. 💪
Good stuff! I enjoyed your article, thanks.
Brilliant piece. Very validating. ❤️
Good post.
What a revelation. Wow. An insight. Now , I know constant worry triggers illnesses. But, what you explained makes utter sense. It has made me sit up and take note.
After yeas of searching I finally found a therapist who listens and supports me. Regardless of what I’m feeling, she helps me see that my reactions are justified and that I am not the antagonist in these situations. She gives me the freedom to feel, which helps to dissipate the the feelings and allows my body to relax for awhile before the next onslaught.
Gawd, for entirely different reasons, this resonated with my piece about my relationship with my body and how I utterly ignored chronic pain 🫂
https://open.substack.com/pub/bearwiseman/p/i-was-in-a-patriarchal-relationship?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=2p20z6
“The body keeps the score” by Bessel van der Kolk is a well known book amongst those in the mental health field. I am sorry you had the experience with the therapist that you did.
It is a great book and explains quite well why you cannot push trauma away in your mind.
Sure sign that someone is deeply traumatized is when they are all in their heads.
Been there...
What you wrote touched me. I also have a body driven by a nervous system informed by trauma. Trauma when I was very young when my brain was developing. I am so sorry that your therapist treated you the way they did. It’s just plain unethical. Everything said in therapy is confidential, how could she threaten to tell your employer? Not ethical. And yet, what I’m saying isn’t much help, either. I am fortunate to be working with a talented therapist who introduced me to internal family systems as a slow and steady way of healing from my trauma. After many years of therapy, using other approaches plus IFS for the last 10+ years, I’m starting to see the healing. I am so glad you found a way out of your prison.