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Samu's avatar

This hit deep.

It felt like someone finally said out loud what survivors usually keep buried.

Every line felt like taking back a voice I thought I’d lost.

Thank you for writing with that kind of truth.

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Sandi's avatar

I recognize myself and my abusers in these 9 ways. I had been gaslighting myself and questioning my own sanity when I kept being told - ‘no, I never said that.’ And

‘Why can’t my truth be as legitimate as yours?’ Because YOUR truth is a LIE! And I don’t have to keep trying to see your side of it anymore. I am freeing myself from your spell over me.

It felt good getting that out! 💕

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khaoula belaid's avatar

Insightful and well explained 🌻 thanks

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Tim Parsons's avatar

Thanks. I needed to hear some of this.

It ended 30 years ago, and it carried on another 20, in some ways, and its shadow is definitely still there even now.

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Valence's avatar

Especially with narcissist.

When an abusive parent says, It’s all about me”

Taught to shut down.

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