This is so good. I hate that there is such a separation of mind and body rehab in terms of alcohol and drug rehab.
The western model has the science but insurance refuses to treat and pay for the whole human. Even the hormones are the Paul Revere screaming “The British are coming” before the nerves trigger the body this way.
This is why the constant psychosocial and environmental stress is so much more damaging than getting physically beat up alone.
The body knows how to take impacts and heal from day one but sometimes our nervous system or gut and hormones are just not developed enough to deal with the load anytime we are not embodied, be it developmentally or trauma induced.
Dis-eases are simply a neuro immune, stress induced breakdown someplace and the body ending up getting the wrong communication after that.
I am in my 70s and have spent the last 70+ years figuring out what makes me me.
I've experienced those silent alarms..I just got on with life. I was living but not alive..watching myself in a movie..yes, yes, yes!
I am experiencing a lot of lower back, shoulder and neck pain, and have been wondering why I experience emotional crises after treatment by my osteopath. I often wonder about my body holding on to unprocessed grief. I had psychotherapy for many years, read books, journal, meditate, practise yoga, eat a healthy diet and currently undergoing treatment by an osteopath.
Sometimes I find myself crying, tears of grief emerging through the cracks, as the real me grows. I've never seen my self as a victim of trauma, but someone who grew up not having her emotional needs met. I am someone who, with love and care, is reassembling the broken pieces of me striving to become a whole person.
Wow Cody, your level of depth, awareness, and insight is truly beautiful to witness and to learn from. The compassion that comes through in your writing tells me that although the road hasn’t been easy, what it’s produced inside of you is irreplaceable… not many go through what you have and use it for fuel to get to where you are now so I’m just over here celebrating you!
I’ll echo Angela. Your communication helps me on a variety of levels. I feel heard. I see you. I have some facts. I can relate to others. I’m not reliving trauma. I am inspired to help relieve others’ trauma. , a natural part of me being me. Thanks for that.
I’m not even gonna pretend to be poetic. This hit like a shovel to the sternum.
Every line felt like it got pried loose from my ribs. The 3am jolt, the shallow breathing, the freeze-mode. You read it all aloud. Thank you for this, Cody.
I wish everyone could read this Cody. So many times physical symptoms get treated (and numbed) with a pill when really what the person needs is emotional rehab.
The Body Keeps The Score is one of the most eye-opening books I’ve ever read and it helped me not only understand myself but others around me.
Thank you for breaking it down and making it so easy to understand.
You’ve written with such clarity Cody, about things that are not easy to explain or write about. You make people feel seen and heard and that is special!
As a British psychiatrist, I tell people they can read all the books they want and do all the therapy they get, but you have to walk the talk from what you’re learning. And I love that you are!
The Brain, the Mind, the Body are amazing messengers but only if you stop to learn and listen. And it’s not always easy to.
I’m going to be 63 in a couple of weeks. This has been my life since I was about 6. Please tell me there’s hope because I’ve long passed the end of my rope.
Same same…63 and just now realizing how much trauma I endure inflicted by my “family” that I walked away from. It’s like trying to unravel a huge ball of yearn over these last 18 months and I’m getting no where.
Just not in the budget and at this point I feel like the work I do on my own would be undone by digging up all that mess I’m trying desperately to forget and move on. Good luck in your hour set!
At first I thought EMDR was kind of woo-woo. Until I started working with a therapist who is trained in it. It was literally a life-saver for me. Now we’re delving deeper and it’s pretty dark. But the more I learn about trauma and PTSD and how they change everything the more hopeful I’m becoming.
Dude, I read the whole thing. Best thing I've read in a long time including by huge selling authors. Great job and thanks so much for making it available.
“You’ve been running a security company when what you need is a sanctuary.”
Is it sad how much of this I recognized pretty much on sight? Early trauma left almost all these responses in me, aggravated by a long stretch of poverty in the 2010s. Thank you for giving this a voice.
All of this. I’m aware that my lifelong “insomnia” is due to a specific trauma when I was a child that caused me to be hypervigilant to this day (I’m 79). I’ve experienced everything you write about, and as I’ve said before, I’m dealing with it through somatic experiencing.
Thank you. Thank you for explaining what has been happening in me for my whole life. I am in my 70s and have been in therapy many times. I took psych classes to figure out what was wrong with me. Read umpteen books all to figure out what the hell is wrong with me. And you explained it so clearly and in plain english and did not offer a pharmaceutical response.
Thank you for helping me realize what is going on and pointing me in a direction that makes sense.
I tend to disagree with the 3 a.m. wake up call. It’s happened to me at times and I worried about it until I read a story about how folks functioned in the Middle Ages. Their sleep nights were broken into two parts and when they woke up at 3 a.m., they did things. They had sex, ate, took a crap, and even worked. But then they got tired again and went back to sleep. I find I like to read if I wake up in the middle of the night. But only fiction. No scrolling or reading about World War II etc. I might read Murakami or some more straight-forward. It’s a great time to read fiction. It brings you to another world and then after 20 minutes or so, I close my eyes and wake up around 7:30…..nothing so bad….
H.O.L.Y. shit — never heard it explained exactly like this before and it make so much sense how you laid it all out.
This is so good. I hate that there is such a separation of mind and body rehab in terms of alcohol and drug rehab.
The western model has the science but insurance refuses to treat and pay for the whole human. Even the hormones are the Paul Revere screaming “The British are coming” before the nerves trigger the body this way.
This is why the constant psychosocial and environmental stress is so much more damaging than getting physically beat up alone.
The body knows how to take impacts and heal from day one but sometimes our nervous system or gut and hormones are just not developed enough to deal with the load anytime we are not embodied, be it developmentally or trauma induced.
Dis-eases are simply a neuro immune, stress induced breakdown someplace and the body ending up getting the wrong communication after that.
This piece is so well constructed, thankyou Cody.
I am in my 70s and have spent the last 70+ years figuring out what makes me me.
I've experienced those silent alarms..I just got on with life. I was living but not alive..watching myself in a movie..yes, yes, yes!
I am experiencing a lot of lower back, shoulder and neck pain, and have been wondering why I experience emotional crises after treatment by my osteopath. I often wonder about my body holding on to unprocessed grief. I had psychotherapy for many years, read books, journal, meditate, practise yoga, eat a healthy diet and currently undergoing treatment by an osteopath.
Sometimes I find myself crying, tears of grief emerging through the cracks, as the real me grows. I've never seen my self as a victim of trauma, but someone who grew up not having her emotional needs met. I am someone who, with love and care, is reassembling the broken pieces of me striving to become a whole person.
I love this Jules! Right there with you. 💗
Wow Cody, your level of depth, awareness, and insight is truly beautiful to witness and to learn from. The compassion that comes through in your writing tells me that although the road hasn’t been easy, what it’s produced inside of you is irreplaceable… not many go through what you have and use it for fuel to get to where you are now so I’m just over here celebrating you!
Thank you Angela! It means a lot.
Excellent. Thank you.
I’ll echo Angela. Your communication helps me on a variety of levels. I feel heard. I see you. I have some facts. I can relate to others. I’m not reliving trauma. I am inspired to help relieve others’ trauma. , a natural part of me being me. Thanks for that.
I’m not even gonna pretend to be poetic. This hit like a shovel to the sternum.
Every line felt like it got pried loose from my ribs. The 3am jolt, the shallow breathing, the freeze-mode. You read it all aloud. Thank you for this, Cody.
Brilliant.
I wish everyone could read this Cody. So many times physical symptoms get treated (and numbed) with a pill when really what the person needs is emotional rehab.
The Body Keeps The Score is one of the most eye-opening books I’ve ever read and it helped me not only understand myself but others around me.
Thank you for breaking it down and making it so easy to understand.
Your last two posts have been more eye-opening than dozens of therapy sessions. Thank you 🙏
Thank you!!
You’ve written with such clarity Cody, about things that are not easy to explain or write about. You make people feel seen and heard and that is special!
As a British psychiatrist, I tell people they can read all the books they want and do all the therapy they get, but you have to walk the talk from what you’re learning. And I love that you are!
The Brain, the Mind, the Body are amazing messengers but only if you stop to learn and listen. And it’s not always easy to.
I’m going to be 63 in a couple of weeks. This has been my life since I was about 6. Please tell me there’s hope because I’ve long passed the end of my rope.
Same same…63 and just now realizing how much trauma I endure inflicted by my “family” that I walked away from. It’s like trying to unravel a huge ball of yearn over these last 18 months and I’m getting no where.
I started therapy at 60. 40 years too late, but better late than never
Just not in the budget and at this point I feel like the work I do on my own would be undone by digging up all that mess I’m trying desperately to forget and move on. Good luck in your hour set!
I am 75. I started with an EMDR therapist about three years ago. It has transformed my life, truly. Never too late to find peace and understanding.
At first I thought EMDR was kind of woo-woo. Until I started working with a therapist who is trained in it. It was literally a life-saver for me. Now we’re delving deeper and it’s pretty dark. But the more I learn about trauma and PTSD and how they change everything the more hopeful I’m becoming.
Exactly!!!!
We all have a nervous system, none of us got an owner's manual. This post is your fast start guide.
I taught middle school for 25 years. You perfectly described how teachers feel in June.
Dude, I read the whole thing. Best thing I've read in a long time including by huge selling authors. Great job and thanks so much for making it available.
“You’ve been running a security company when what you need is a sanctuary.”
Is it sad how much of this I recognized pretty much on sight? Early trauma left almost all these responses in me, aggravated by a long stretch of poverty in the 2010s. Thank you for giving this a voice.
All of this. I’m aware that my lifelong “insomnia” is due to a specific trauma when I was a child that caused me to be hypervigilant to this day (I’m 79). I’ve experienced everything you write about, and as I’ve said before, I’m dealing with it through somatic experiencing.
Thank you. Thank you for explaining what has been happening in me for my whole life. I am in my 70s and have been in therapy many times. I took psych classes to figure out what was wrong with me. Read umpteen books all to figure out what the hell is wrong with me. And you explained it so clearly and in plain english and did not offer a pharmaceutical response.
Thank you for helping me realize what is going on and pointing me in a direction that makes sense.
God bless you.
I tend to disagree with the 3 a.m. wake up call. It’s happened to me at times and I worried about it until I read a story about how folks functioned in the Middle Ages. Their sleep nights were broken into two parts and when they woke up at 3 a.m., they did things. They had sex, ate, took a crap, and even worked. But then they got tired again and went back to sleep. I find I like to read if I wake up in the middle of the night. But only fiction. No scrolling or reading about World War II etc. I might read Murakami or some more straight-forward. It’s a great time to read fiction. It brings you to another world and then after 20 minutes or so, I close my eyes and wake up around 7:30…..nothing so bad….