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Berta Vanslyke's avatar

Thank you for this!!!

......Someone installed a voice in you that says you’re not enough. You can uninstall it. You can replace it. You can tell it to go fuck itself and mean it.....

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Jubilee Ann's avatar

Your voice here is a healing gift. Thank you for choosing to stay ✨

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Michaela Dominguez's avatar

"Self hatred is an injury someone gave you." Wow. This is a great article, Cody. You're doing important work here.

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Been Through Some Stuff's avatar

"You survived too. That means something. That means everything." This is a very powerful piece. You are an inspiration. 🫶🏻

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Elegantly Unhinged's avatar

Reading this was f’n eerie. Our stories seem to be overwhelmingly similar. 👀

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LyndaJoyJamysen AKALibertyJoy!'s avatar

Well said and an amazing article Cody!! I love your voice, your honesty, your authenticity, and your heart!!

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Sandi's avatar

Thank you! This is a salvation article is for me! I, too, tried to end my life a few times. And it was because everyone made me feel unlovable and a liar when I know it was truth, and wrong all the time. But really I was just being kind, and loving and wanting to help people in any way I could. It was family that did this to me. Starting with my mother and ending today.

Do you know why, Cody? Because I have decided right now to like myself! Heck, I might even love myself! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. 💕

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Kari Roetman's avatar

I just watched the John Candy documentary called "I Like Me" and then I read your article and now I'm walking around going, "I like me" over and over and over. Am I reading too much into this coincidence? Maybe. Does it matter? Nope. I like me.

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Cody Taymore's avatar

This made my day Kari.

I will have to check out that documentary :)

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Kari Roetman's avatar

It's so good.

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Glenna Gill's avatar

Cody, this is really going to help people. My life completely changed when I started showing myself (and younger versions of me) love and compassion. It’s so much better than the guilt, shame and blame and self hate. Thank you for writing it.

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Valence's avatar

Really cutting through the crap.

May need to read every day.

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Maro's avatar

Amazing post! Hope you see the impact you’re making.

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SWL's avatar

Remember this hurt people, hurt people. I have suffered from the abuse of people forever bc I feel they desired what I had , did and had become and therefore decided to hurt me bc they were hurt and broken themselves. Give ‘em grace, be the better person and do better another day. It’s all I can do to get by and go on with life.

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Let’s Get UnStuck's avatar

This here…you have personally wrote something that is very close to me.. There are so many layers in this that I could peel back. I have been through some relationships that have been a form of mental and emotional abuse. You sharing these topics are so important and obviously very relatable. It makes someone who has been through any portion of this abuse, feel seen, feel love and feel normal. Thank you

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Priya | The Pretend Poet's avatar

This is so powerful, Cody. Thank you for sharing. Your voice is such a necessary one in this space and I appreciate your honesty. I feel like the way we talk about severe depression and suicidal ideation needs to change. It’s not a one and done thing. When it comes from a trauma that can’t be swept away, it isn’t just “I’m healed now and it’s over”. It’s a lifelong battle. Society needs to treat it like one. We need to treat it like a cancer. Sometimes we’re in remission, sometimes it’s an active battle. We’re always fighting for our lives. And everyone who wins that battle—is a survivor.

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Charlotte. D's avatar

Thank you so much.

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Melba Zinke Clark's avatar

Excellent article Cody! Thank you. 💙🤗

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