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Becky Aig ✍🏻's avatar

Funny how I’ve had all these exact experiences with the narcissists I’ve had in my life. Even when I think two steps ahead (because I’m very stubborn and strong willed), they usually find a weak spot that I didn’t pay attention to. I used to keep receipts because that’s my nature and it would piss them off so bad, but even with my smartness they still got through to my insecurity.

Not until one day, I realized the reason they are still getting me is because I had something in me I hadn’t worked on. It was my fear of abandonment, after I worked on that, I got my power back.

Been planning to post a piece on my experience with narcissists. I like that you hit the nail on the head. Most times they feed on our insecurities, that’s where they get power, Insecurities that you don’t even know you have.

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Pam Voss, CHPC's avatar

Excellent article! It took me a couple years to understand this and that I was in a deeply covert narcissistic marriage. It was the last time the mask dropped I determined I was done. But it was only because I had educated myself and done the heavy lifting in counseling. While it’s sad my marriage didn’t survive, the relief is amazing. The freedom from tyranny intoxicating! Thanks for getting this type of message out there!

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