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Alicia Joyful's avatar

You are doing my amazing work speaking to all of this! Thank you!

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Cody Taymore's avatar

Thank you Alicia!!!

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Yvonne Cook's avatar

It is so hard to not feel broken and stupid for allowing yourself to be victimized.

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MissLadyK's avatar

It’s all hard, whether you freely admit, I’m assuming to others, victimization or not. Best to do what’s healthy and right for you on your timeline and let the chips fall. Truth will set you free either way. Self integrity makes you strong and courageous, no need to advertise.

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Simona's Butterfly Stories's avatar

Well... yes.... that's it exactly. Thanks Cody 🙏🏻

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Cody Taymore's avatar

Thank you!

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Mohan Manohar's avatar

Cody. Wow! So well written. You describe me to a tee. I’m struggling with exactly the same issues and emotions you highlighted in your article. I’m in a new job and I’m frozen most of the time not knowing if I should ask for help, withdraw or spend sleepless nights working on the solutions. All because I’m afraid my colleagues and superiors will think ‘I can’t believe we hired this guy.’ It’s been four weeks. It feels like it’s been four years. I’m exhausted.

Thanks for the article. Now I need to put it into practice. Slowly. One step at a time. All while I make sure I don’t disappear when I’m in front of my colleagues. Believe me when I say that just writing this post feels semi-liberating.

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Jonathan Rees's avatar

Oh …..

thank you. You made me stop and think. Now back to action …!!!

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gail smith reynolds's avatar

And I will finally put it down. Again. No matter how many times it takes.

Regards.

gSr

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Cody Taymore's avatar

Thank you Gail!

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R A Broom's avatar

I love the shift from practicing healing to just living it. I know all the ways to heal myself, to come out of this place of survival. Yet, am I truly living in a place of healing, of health, if I merely know the steps? Thank you for highlighting some tangible actions. I appreciate your work.

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Cody Taymore's avatar

Thank you I appreciate it!!

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MissLadyK's avatar

Good for you. I call it exquisite self care. It’s not selfish, when the time is right you will care for others. After an injury, self care is essential.

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TheArmchairDweller's avatar

Such an educational and insightful read… so many points leaving me saying “wow” or just rendering me speechless all together.

Thank you for constructing this piece, you’re doing the lords work 🙌🏼

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Cody Taymore's avatar

Thank you!!!

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Shannon Hilson's avatar

Although I've been working diligently on it all, every last one of these describes me. I never quite thought of it as a straight trauma response, though, so thank you for that insight!

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Lila Sterling's avatar

Brilliant. Thank you. 🙏🏻

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Faith🎀's avatar

I think you just changed my life I’m going to sob

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Fr. Scott Bailey, C.Ss.R.'s avatar

Wow! You hit a home run here. It makes sense. This is the first time I’ve read what you’ve written and I’m looking forward to more. Thank you. You might have saved a life.

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Barbara Faigen's avatar

Thank you! I’ve recently started somatic experiencing.

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Savitree Kaur's avatar

This is good.

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