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Ms Joy's avatar

Cody, I absolutely commend your tenacity. I am dealing with betrayal on multiple fronts. These people are unrepentant about wanting to destroying me. Tonight, I had to listen to one of my tormentors tell me that I was a f**king bitch and should die. It is because I just want rules to be enforced and boundaries respected.

However, like you, I trusted an authority figure. I shared with him that I was the survivor of a recent SA and had a history of dv. He would express his condolences via text and then berate me in vicious social media posts. I am grateful to the friend who shared them with me to lift the veil. This man attempted to have a surrogate intervene in a legal matter and I had to threaten him with a TRO.

Like you, I suffer from complex PTSD. I tend to have a very jaundice view of people. I hope for the best but tend to expect the worst. Once you have been betrayed, it is challenging to rebuild that trust.

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Priya | The Pretend Poet's avatar

In my experience, the betrayal also came with gaslighting.

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RoseyT's avatar

Thanks, Cody. One thing that you said in a previous post was that Narcissists have a different operating system. I worked for one many years ago and I remember writing out a conversation I’d had and then writing out a rebuttal to each point. It helped me see that I was being gaslit.

Karma caught up with her fortunately but that doesn’t always happen.

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Valence's avatar

Feel less alone.

We can survive these betrayals.

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Tracy Diamond/ random girl's avatar

💪🙏❤️‍🩹I am so sorry this happened to you. I am so happy that you are using what you learned to help yourself & others. Thank you for sharing. Goodluck & Godspeed. 👏👍

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Robin Motzer's avatar

Amazing, Cody! You explain trauma and resilience very well. May you reach those who are suffering from manipulation!

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