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Glenna Gill's avatar

You are right on target, Cody. My ex-husband said all ten things on a regular basis. Unfortunately, I just realized my current husband says about five of them. God, that sucks.

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Libelula's avatar

On point!!! Lived all 10 !!! It is one of the worst experiences a person can have especially if it was a loved one!! Thank u for sharing 🙏🏼

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Shannon Hilson's avatar

This reads like a play-by-play of how my mother always spoke to me growing up (and still would if I let her get away with it). Great advice, all of it spot on.

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Judy's avatar

Wow! I’ve experienced all of that over and over. It sounds like you must know my ex husband.

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Shannon D. Smith, CPTD's avatar

Wow this was helpful! My ex-husband used all of these and now I’m starting to see the same tendencies in one of my daughters which is anxiety-producing

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Disposable Poetry's avatar

Also "Everyone else agrees with me"

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Backwardpastor's avatar

More like their top 10 greatest hits 😆

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romantic fugitive.'s avatar

literally everything my ex said. every time we had a fight.

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The Bathrobe Guy  👘's avatar

This is such a powerful guide. Naming these phrases so clearly strips them of their power and helps people see the manipulation for what it is. Thank you for putting this out there, it’s both validating and freeing.

Stay entangled, my friends.

—The Bathrobe Guy

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Abhinav Jha's avatar

Every narcissist will hate this post that decodes their destructive tactics to control others.

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Lieutenant Dizy's avatar

Have had, I think, 9/10 of these phrases used on me before.

I no longer associate with those walking headaches

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Sculpting A Life's avatar

Yeah. All this and more but I stood up to it anyway. (Got me disinherited but my life was mine for once!) Sounds like you knew my mother, too!

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Outdoorluvr's avatar

This is exactly the reason we knew who trump was the first time he spoke in 2015 - we've had way too much practice with manipulators like him.

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Inverted Pyramid's avatar

Great list!

Let me add one more: “LETS AGREE TO DISAGREE “

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William Schiller's avatar

I was married to that woman…

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The WOW Words's avatar

WORDS

WINs to:

SWORD

Today, I will use my WORDS as a SWORD for kindness and strength.

Your turn.

Today, I will use my WORDS as a SWORD for…

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