This feels less like “sales advice” and more like a public service announcement for everyone who’s exhausted by performative humans. Loudly appreciated.
“True THAT”! Every point you made about sales applies to other interpersonal relationships. Trying to be liked is a trap professionally, but (I think) most importantly in ALL relationships. The more someone likes you when you’re contorting yourself to be likable, the greater the distance is between the two of you.
It’s a form of lying and lies cause harm, even when it’s only us that are aware of the lie.
Best 4 a.m. read ever. Clearly, I needed to read this so the Universe got my ass out of bed very early, giving me an hour to read your post and ponder! Relationships are significant no matter the context. Being present, listening, being authentic to whomever, whenever is the key to happiness. No effort is wasted in relationships, whether clients or bed partners. I love the raw power of your words. Your feet have been held to the fire, and you have survived. Survivors have more wisdom than the norm. Your write your wisdom, loud and clear. Take no prisoners . Love your way through the worldly chaos and be glad you did. That is the message I get from you. Thank you, Cody.
Great article! Thanks. I just dealt with one of those sales people. He wouldn’t take no for an answer, I mean 45 minutes of his pitch and then redirecting everything I said. I couldn’t help it, but I finally said, “Doesn’t no mean no?” Silenced and then a thank you for my time. Sheesh! He used EVERY sales tactic in the book. Some of it was entertaining but when my no was not being heard, the fun was over. Wish I knew him so I could send him this article. Well done!
This is refreshingly honest. What really lands is the distinction between performance and presence — that most “rapport” tactics fail not because they’re wrong in theory, but because people can feel when they’re being used instead of understood. The line “give a shit about whether you’re actually helping them” feels like the spine of the whole piece. I also appreciated the implicit truth that some people will like you whatever you do, some will never like you no matter how well you perform, and some are simply too busy surviving to be thinking about you at all. There’s a lot of hard-won clarity here about trust being a byproduct of truth, not technique.
This feels less like “sales advice” and more like a public service announcement for everyone who’s exhausted by performative humans. Loudly appreciated.
Yes it is!
“True THAT”! Every point you made about sales applies to other interpersonal relationships. Trying to be liked is a trap professionally, but (I think) most importantly in ALL relationships. The more someone likes you when you’re contorting yourself to be likable, the greater the distance is between the two of you.
It’s a form of lying and lies cause harm, even when it’s only us that are aware of the lie.
Thanks for your post!
Best 4 a.m. read ever. Clearly, I needed to read this so the Universe got my ass out of bed very early, giving me an hour to read your post and ponder! Relationships are significant no matter the context. Being present, listening, being authentic to whomever, whenever is the key to happiness. No effort is wasted in relationships, whether clients or bed partners. I love the raw power of your words. Your feet have been held to the fire, and you have survived. Survivors have more wisdom than the norm. Your write your wisdom, loud and clear. Take no prisoners . Love your way through the worldly chaos and be glad you did. That is the message I get from you. Thank you, Cody.
Great article! Thanks. I just dealt with one of those sales people. He wouldn’t take no for an answer, I mean 45 minutes of his pitch and then redirecting everything I said. I couldn’t help it, but I finally said, “Doesn’t no mean no?” Silenced and then a thank you for my time. Sheesh! He used EVERY sales tactic in the book. Some of it was entertaining but when my no was not being heard, the fun was over. Wish I knew him so I could send him this article. Well done!
This is refreshingly honest. What really lands is the distinction between performance and presence — that most “rapport” tactics fail not because they’re wrong in theory, but because people can feel when they’re being used instead of understood. The line “give a shit about whether you’re actually helping them” feels like the spine of the whole piece. I also appreciated the implicit truth that some people will like you whatever you do, some will never like you no matter how well you perform, and some are simply too busy surviving to be thinking about you at all. There’s a lot of hard-won clarity here about trust being a byproduct of truth, not technique.