Interesting article Cody. The term “narcissist “ is over used. It downplays the experiences of those of us who have dealt with one. My ex met 6 of the criteria. It was a brief marriage. I divorced him & cut him out of my life.
I’ll tell you and anyone who wants to hear what a real narc is: the person I made the mistake of marrying and stayed with 18 years until I had enough of the vitriol, erratic outbursts, triangulation, gaslighting, lying, cheating and constant criticism. I’m now putting the pieces of my life back together, getting past the trauma bond.
This is such an important perspective. The way we throw around terms like “narcissist” online really dilutes the meaning and can even do harm. Thank you for breaking it down and keeping the focus on understanding real patterns and real accountability. ✨
Okay, I was so pumped about this post, I commented when I was only about halfway through. I greatly appreciate the level of detail you included. It touches on themes I face daily as a qualified professional working in mental health. Very nice work.
Your stuff is always top notch, but this one really hit for me.
Interesting article Cody. The term “narcissist “ is over used. It downplays the experiences of those of us who have dealt with one. My ex met 6 of the criteria. It was a brief marriage. I divorced him & cut him out of my life.
I’ll tell you and anyone who wants to hear what a real narc is: the person I made the mistake of marrying and stayed with 18 years until I had enough of the vitriol, erratic outbursts, triangulation, gaslighting, lying, cheating and constant criticism. I’m now putting the pieces of my life back together, getting past the trauma bond.
Wow, thanks for writing this. Sometimes it seems like everyone is calling narcissist on everyone else like a game a tag… and that’s simply not true.
This is such an important perspective. The way we throw around terms like “narcissist” online really dilutes the meaning and can even do harm. Thank you for breaking it down and keeping the focus on understanding real patterns and real accountability. ✨
Okay, I was so pumped about this post, I commented when I was only about halfway through. I greatly appreciate the level of detail you included. It touches on themes I face daily as a qualified professional working in mental health. Very nice work.
Your stuff is always top notch, but this one really hit for me.
If you are lucky enough to escape a narcissistically abusive relationship with your life, it’s not a term that you use lightly….