You know what sucks though, when one does have solid boundaries, holds themselves and others to a high standard- they often, okay I, feel alone much of the time. Maybe it’s more prevalent in women friendships, but man it’s tough. Fucking brutal.
There is a lot at play, right? We are more agreeable by nature, and we socially conditioned each other- especially in our current climate, to over-identify with externals.
The turning point comes when women like us stop playing games. Painful for us, but we are responsible for doing what we can to not participate in the fuckery.
I find it fascinating, I actually developed an extreme fight response. I have a very hard time doing anything else in response to a threat.
I saved my little brother a couple of times because I saw threats he didn't.
I saved my horrible ex a few times too, and wish I didn't. He couldnt stop fucking around; I could have said nothing, and let him finally find out.
My family definitely didn't like the fact that I responded the way I did, and would have vastly preferred, and possibly rewarded me for being a fawner- but my brother and I would 100% one or both be dead by now.
I do wonder what causes people to develop one way or the other?
I was just telling a friend about a family situation of mine. “I have the answers to this situation, but I’m the last person they want to hear it from,” and he told me about Cassandra.
I’m glad your brother listens to you. mine does not and it crushes me what he chooses for his life.
Your brother is lucky to have you. Probably, I imagine, multiple factors going on. Your wiring set you up that way, perhaps birth order plays a role- are you older? Then when you saved you and your brother, it solidified your fierceness. You. Had confirmation your instincts were right and you continued to water that fighter in you. Have you overshot from time to time- likely, but that is where harnessing your gift and refining it comes in. I imagine you have enough clarity to finesse this gift and use it wisely.
Yes, older. And generally no. I've never really had any obvious overshots, it's typically been dangers that have gotten past me one way or another, and it's worn me down.
My brother listens to me like my word is just about gospel, but others- I might as well be called Cassandra.
Prey animals love me though, birds and small fluffy critters of all sorts just come leaping up to me. They want a cookie from thier big scary buddy lol!
You know what sucks though, when one does have solid boundaries, holds themselves and others to a high standard- they often, okay I, feel alone much of the time. Maybe it’s more prevalent in women friendships, but man it’s tough. Fucking brutal.
I agree, I think it’s more difficult for women; we’re taught to give the benefit of the doubt, and we are more agreeable by nature.
There is a lot at play, right? We are more agreeable by nature, and we socially conditioned each other- especially in our current climate, to over-identify with externals.
True…I can only hope that we’ve reached a turning point in our culture.
The turning point comes when women like us stop playing games. Painful for us, but we are responsible for doing what we can to not participate in the fuckery.
I find it fascinating, I actually developed an extreme fight response. I have a very hard time doing anything else in response to a threat.
I saved my little brother a couple of times because I saw threats he didn't.
I saved my horrible ex a few times too, and wish I didn't. He couldnt stop fucking around; I could have said nothing, and let him finally find out.
My family definitely didn't like the fact that I responded the way I did, and would have vastly preferred, and possibly rewarded me for being a fawner- but my brother and I would 100% one or both be dead by now.
I do wonder what causes people to develop one way or the other?
I was just telling a friend about a family situation of mine. “I have the answers to this situation, but I’m the last person they want to hear it from,” and he told me about Cassandra.
I’m glad your brother listens to you. mine does not and it crushes me what he chooses for his life.
Your brother is lucky to have you. Probably, I imagine, multiple factors going on. Your wiring set you up that way, perhaps birth order plays a role- are you older? Then when you saved you and your brother, it solidified your fierceness. You. Had confirmation your instincts were right and you continued to water that fighter in you. Have you overshot from time to time- likely, but that is where harnessing your gift and refining it comes in. I imagine you have enough clarity to finesse this gift and use it wisely.
Yes, older. And generally no. I've never really had any obvious overshots, it's typically been dangers that have gotten past me one way or another, and it's worn me down.
My brother listens to me like my word is just about gospel, but others- I might as well be called Cassandra.
Prey animals love me though, birds and small fluffy critters of all sorts just come leaping up to me. They want a cookie from thier big scary buddy lol!
Fools said I you do not know. Silence like a cancer grows
People writing songs that no one hears. The Sound of Silence